Fuck Politics. This Is All Me.

In the 40’s and 50’s marriage was defined as between 2 of the “right (race)” people. It was supposedly going to destroy society. One judge even wrote, God separated the races into different continents and it was against God’s will to mix races. This is a ridiculous idea now. Gay marriage is inevitable, but it’s a matter of how long people will take to wake up and stop being ignorant.

So why is it bad that other couples want to join a beautiful commitment like marriage? Wouldn’t our marriage numbers just improve the crappy statistics already? What’s wrong with wanting a lifetime commitment with someone?

Everyone is concerned about children. They don’t care about whether you are gay or straight. They hope that you give them candy or take them to the park. They care that someone feeds them everyday. They care that someone wants to help them when they need it. And any GOOD parent would love them NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO or WHO THEY BECOME.

No one is asking the church to change any traditions. I want the law to change and abide to all citizens who have the ability to love. Domestic partnership is NOT the same thing as marriage. It’s NOT equal. The most significant difference between marriage and civil unions (or domestic partnerships) is that only marriage offers federal benefits and protections. Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) allows each state to choose whether or not to recognize a same-sex union that is recognized in another state. Talk about equality!

It boggles my mind that there are people out there that don’t believe that my love is the same as their love. It hurts when people tell me that I’m an immoral person just for loving someone for who he is. I have been judged all my life. I see younger gay men and women struggling to figure it all out…and to have a scared and ignorant society keep them from coming out. As a result of that gay teen suicide is 4 times higher than hetero teens.

Do your fucking homework before making assumptions of the “damaging” affects of gay marriage. I haven’t seen ONE substantial argument that validates YES on 8. Where is the democracy and freedom of ALL people when my rights are denied? Where is “life” when I’m not allowed to live out who I am? Where is “liberty” when I am not free to marry the one I (NOT YOU, not my friends, not my parents) love? Where is the “pursuit of happiness” if I am not allowed to pursue a future with someone who I love?

If you can sleep at night knowing you denied me (and our future) of rights and equal federal treatment...then don’t call yourself a moral person.

If you can’t see that LOVE is a beautiful thing between ANYONE, you don’t know what true love is.

If you think that I am hellbound, then come to church and serve as I do and go to mass with me.

I respect your opinions…even if they’re wrong. But oddly enough, there are many people who can’t respect my opinions…even when they’re right.

Let me lower my level for a sec for those who still don’t get it. If you still want to vote yes on 8, honestly, well...fuck you. It’s not my fault if you cannot grow into a better state of mind. It’s not my fault if you don’t care enough to know the real me. It’s not my responsibility to educate you if you don’t choose to open your mind. I have done more than enough to explain myself everyday of my fucking life…and now I have the chance to rise up and be an equal. I want you to come with me and be part of a better life for not only gay people…but for ALL people who know what love is.

I’m here.
I’m queer.
GET OVER IT.


1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 10
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect;
but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away.