Love - After "He's Just Not That Into You" & Youth Day 2009

Love. What do I know about love? Believe me, I'm no expert, but it's funny how we think about love and this epic journey to find it. There are all these supposed rules we impose on ourselves. We always hear about these exceptions of how people beat these non-existent odds and find this love. In simpler terms, "mind games." There is always a confusing, ongoing conflict between the mind and the heart - no matter which one you think in charge at the given moment.

The rules we apply to a given relationship affect the connection between two people or parties. (For example: Don’t call too soon after otherwise, you look too eager.) These rules make us assume the behavior of the other side, while it really may not be the case. Our actions then change because of our assumptions about the other party. To further complicate our assumptions, we hear stories about exceptions. These are defined as the people who broke the rules and have succeeded despite the warnings of the given rule. Now there is a conflict between the rule that we are familiar with and the hope of becoming the “exception.” We then begin to play mind games to search for answers while all it really takes is an honest and open approach.


In contrast, we explore our relationship with God. Our connection is significantly simpler because we know how to navigate this relationship. An open and honest relationship with Him is the only way to connect. There are no “mind games” or rules to apply. God now becomes the “exception” because if we decide to allow God to work in us, then the relationship is successful. Therefore, in order to have flourishing relationships with others, we must simplify and be open and honest with each other. Sharing in this relationship, the Holy Spirit then becomes present between them.


Why do we make things so hard for ourselves? It's because we're perfectly flawed.



If you know who I am and love me anyway, then shit, I am one lucky guy.