Love - After "He's Just Not That Into You" & Youth Day 2009
Love. What do I know about love? Believe me, I'm no expert, but it's funny how we think about love and this epic journey to find it. There are all these supposed rules we impose on ourselves. We always hear about these exceptions of how people beat these non-existent odds and find this love. In simpler terms, "mind games." There is always a confusing, ongoing conflict between the mind and the heart - no matter which one you think in charge at the given moment.
The rules we apply to a given relationship affect the connection between two people or parties. (For example: Don’t call too soon after otherwise, you look too eager.) These rules make us assume the behavior of the other side, while it really may not be the case. Our actions then change because of our assumptions about the other party. To further complicate our assumptions, we hear stories about exceptions. These are defined as the people who broke the rules and have succeeded despite the warnings of the given rule. Now there is a conflict between the rule that we are familiar with and the hope of becoming the “exception.” We then begin to play mind games to search for answers while all it really takes is an honest and open approach.
In contrast, we explore our relationship with God. Our connection is significantly simpler because we know how to navigate this relationship. An open and honest relationship with Him is the only way to connect. There are no “mind games” or rules to apply. God now becomes the “exception” because if we decide to allow God to work in us, then the relationship is successful. Therefore, in order to have flourishing relationships with others, we must simplify and be open and honest with each other. Sharing in this relationship, the Holy Spirit then becomes present between them.
Why do we make things so hard for ourselves? It's because we're perfectly flawed.
If you know who I am and love me anyway, then shit, I am one lucky guy.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
CELEBRATE! Just don’t put the “VD” in “Valentine’s Day.”
As I happily sit here with a dozen roses and a new Wacom tablet, I cannot deny the affects of Valentine’s Day. However, I can’t help but feel annoyed about so many people being so overly cynical about today. “Overrated” is the term that has been floating around like a disdainful fog. Seriously, give me an example where the big holidays have not been commercialized. Personally, I don’t believe that Valentine’s Day is overrated. The only thing that’s overrated about today is the useless, empty complaints about a lonely existence. Seriously, that’s not original either.
Think about it. There’s at least one day in the year where someone in our lives deserves to be celebrated. So if celebrating is overrated, no one should make a big fuss about a birthday, anniversary or any important day in someone’s history. Naturally, love is supposed to be an everyday thing. However, it’s funny to me that people detest a day that is about the greatest notion known to humankind. Is it really THAT bad to celebrate love for a day?
This supposedly loathed holiday started as a pagan ritual concerning horny, naked men spanking maidens for fertility. Eventually, in the Christian point of view, Saint Valentine was performing secret marriages during a time where men were not allowed to marry because the Roman army forbade it. Valentine was executed for his troubles on February 14 in 270 AD.
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t just be about the intimacy between two lovers. It should be about love, period. Whether you are single or spoken for, you should express your love to ALL your loved ones, both new and old. Who do you really love? Who really loves you back? If you know the answer to any of those questions, then you should celebrate today. Not all people are given the ability to love at all. But, isn’t it funny how three small words are either taken for granted or very difficult to utter?
As a good friend once said, “sometimes all that remains is the story of how we got there. The love story.” All of us have a story and if it’s inside you, it has to be worth telling. Whether the end of your story or chapter is bitter or pending, love is always worth the story. My book is full of stories about not only my boyfriend, but also my family and friends who continue to reciprocate love. Just because I happen to be in an intimate relationship does not mean I will forget about those that I am connected to through love.
What is love? Strangely, everyone is aware of it, but no one can fully define it.
So go ahead and piss and moan today, but before you do that, think about who really counts in your life. Who loves you as flawed and insecure as you are? Yeah, I thought so.
I love you too.
As I happily sit here with a dozen roses and a new Wacom tablet, I cannot deny the affects of Valentine’s Day. However, I can’t help but feel annoyed about so many people being so overly cynical about today. “Overrated” is the term that has been floating around like a disdainful fog. Seriously, give me an example where the big holidays have not been commercialized. Personally, I don’t believe that Valentine’s Day is overrated. The only thing that’s overrated about today is the useless, empty complaints about a lonely existence. Seriously, that’s not original either.
Think about it. There’s at least one day in the year where someone in our lives deserves to be celebrated. So if celebrating is overrated, no one should make a big fuss about a birthday, anniversary or any important day in someone’s history. Naturally, love is supposed to be an everyday thing. However, it’s funny to me that people detest a day that is about the greatest notion known to humankind. Is it really THAT bad to celebrate love for a day?
This supposedly loathed holiday started as a pagan ritual concerning horny, naked men spanking maidens for fertility. Eventually, in the Christian point of view, Saint Valentine was performing secret marriages during a time where men were not allowed to marry because the Roman army forbade it. Valentine was executed for his troubles on February 14 in 270 AD.
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t just be about the intimacy between two lovers. It should be about love, period. Whether you are single or spoken for, you should express your love to ALL your loved ones, both new and old. Who do you really love? Who really loves you back? If you know the answer to any of those questions, then you should celebrate today. Not all people are given the ability to love at all. But, isn’t it funny how three small words are either taken for granted or very difficult to utter?
As a good friend once said, “sometimes all that remains is the story of how we got there. The love story.” All of us have a story and if it’s inside you, it has to be worth telling. Whether the end of your story or chapter is bitter or pending, love is always worth the story. My book is full of stories about not only my boyfriend, but also my family and friends who continue to reciprocate love. Just because I happen to be in an intimate relationship does not mean I will forget about those that I am connected to through love.
What is love? Strangely, everyone is aware of it, but no one can fully define it.
So go ahead and piss and moan today, but before you do that, think about who really counts in your life. Who loves you as flawed and insecure as you are? Yeah, I thought so.
I love you too.
Friday, February 13, 2009
Thursday, February 12, 2009
ME? GOOD WRITER? That's unpossible.
Ever since I decided to write Yelp reviews more often, it seems as though my friends have discovered that I can write.
I've always considered myself only above average when it came to my writing skills.
That's all.
Sorry, nothing substantial right now.
Just an observation. ha.
Ever since I decided to write Yelp reviews more often, it seems as though my friends have discovered that I can write.
I've always considered myself only above average when it came to my writing skills.
That's all.
Sorry, nothing substantial right now.
Just an observation. ha.
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